How to Create a Family Technology Pledge

As another school year begins, the digital landscape our children navigate has become increasingly complex. With artificial intelligence tools now readily available and social media platforms evolving rapidly, considering creating a family technology pledge has never been more crucial, or more challenging.

Gone are the days when we simply worried about screen time limits. Today’s parents must address everything from AI-assisted homework to the growing threat of deepfake cyberbullying. The technology shaping our kids’ lives isn’t just about phones and social media anymore—it’s about preparing them for a world where artificial intelligence is reshaping how they learn, communicate, and express themselves.

The New Digital Reality for Tweens and Teens

Recent research from the Pew Research Center shows that 26% of students aged 13-17 are using ChatGPT to help with their assignments, double the number from 2023. Meanwhile, surveys reveal that between 40 and 50 percent of students are aware of deepfakes being circulated at school. These statistics underscore a reality many parents aren’t prepared for: our children are already immersed in an AI-powered world, whether we’ve given them permission or not.

The key to successful digital parenting in 2025 isn’t necessarily about banning technology—it’s about having intentional, educational conversations that prepare our children to use these powerful tools responsibly. We need to acknowledge that technology is here to stay, so the best thing we can do is accept it’s here, educate our kids on how to use it safely, and introduce boundaries and rules to help keep them protected.

Creating Your Family Technology Pledge: A Collaborative Approach

For any pledge to be effective, lasting, and conflict-free, we need to shift the focus from simply setting rules to creating an open, constructive dialogue that helps all family members use technology in healthy ways. The most successful technology pledges are created collaboratively, not decided without collaboration. This ensures everyone feels included and that the guidelines reflect your family’s unique needs and values.

The most important consideration in tailoring a pledge to your kids’ ages and maturity levels, and to your family’s schedule. There’s no point making pledges that don’t reflect your children’s actual technology use or your family’s realistic expectations. Remember, this is about starting conversations and creating a framework for ongoing dialogue, not a rigid set of rules that’s destined to fail.

Responsible AI Use for Academic Success

One of the biggest changes in recent years is the need to address AI tools like ChatGPT, Claude, and other learning platforms. Rather than trying to catch assignments written by AI, many schools are now launching programs that include AI Learning Modes, recognizing that these tools can be valuable when used appropriately.

The benefits of AI assistance in education are significant and shouldn’t be ignored. AI can serve as a personalized tutor, explaining complex concepts in multiple ways until a student understands. It can help students with learning differences access the curriculum more effectively, and students working in a second language can use these tools to level the playing field. When used properly, AI can enhance critical thinking by helping students explore different perspectives on topics and organizing their thoughts more clearly.

However, the risks of over-reliance on AI are equally real and concerning. New research has shown that overreliance on AI might erode our ability to think critically, and critical thinking skills are essential for success in the real world. Students may become dependent on AI for basic problem-solving, missing opportunities to develop their own analytical skills and unique voice. Academic integrity concerns arise when AI does the work instead of supporting learning, potentially undermining the entire educational process.

Your family technology pledge should address these nuances.. Children should understand that they will use AI tools to enhance their learning, not replace it. This means always disclosing when they’ve used AI assistance on assignments, using AI to explain concepts they don’t understand while still working through problems themselves, and never submitting AI-generated work as their own original thinking. They should learn to ask AI to help with organizing thoughts, not creating them, and use AI to check their work for errors while ensuring the ideas and solutions remain their own.

Digital Identity and Deepfake Prevention

The rise of AI-generated content has created unprecedented risks for students, particularly regarding deepfake technology. Research shows that girls are most often targeted by deepfake images, and for victims, the emotional and psychological impact can be severe and long-lasting. What’s particularly alarming is that one photo posted online is all that’s needed to create a deepfake, making this a potential risk for every student.

Parents should help their children become mindful of what photos they share on social media, understanding that any image could potentially be misused. Children must understand that they should never participate in group chats or conversations where deepfakes are being shared, even passively. They need to recognize that creating deepfakes of others, even as a “joke,” can cause serious psychological harm and that possession of manipulated sexual imagery involving minors is illegal.

Helpful Tips for Parents

Creating a family technology pledge isn’t about limiting your child’s potential—it’s about empowering them to navigate an increasingly complex digital world safely and ethically. The emergence of AI tools and deepfakes is forcing families to have important conversations about ethics, empathy, and responsibility that previous generations never had to consider.

The goal isn’t to create a perfect document that anticipates every possible scenario. Instead, it’s to establish a foundation for ongoing dialogue about how technology can enhance rather than detract from your family’s values and your child’s growth into a thoughtful, responsible digital citizen. To help parents and guardians start discussions, we’ve created a first draft Technology Pledge that you can use to start a discussion with your family. Click here to download McAfee’s Technology Pledge

The digital landscape will continue to evolve, but the fundamental principles of kindness, honesty, and critical thinking remain constant. By creating a thoughtful technology pledge and maintaining open dialogue about digital challenges, you’re giving your child the tools they need to thrive in whatever technological environment they encounter. Start the conversation today. Your child’s digital future depends on it.